Who are you referring to when you say "competent women"? It's an honest question.
I can only think about Eb, but building an entire theory like that around a single character is a bit of a stretch.
You are making this distinction, but Tunon and Graven Ashe are pawns exactly like Sirin, an Archon so weak and coward that she accepts to follow and serve the creature she hates the most. The only other female Archon we see is the Archon of Tides, who is such a coward she almost erases herself and her students from history. At least, Tunon and Graven Ashe are trying to do something good with the situation they found themselves in.
As i've said before i do not recall all the details of the game, and I am not planning to replay it now for a discussion. Save to say there were quite a few sidequest that portraited women like that but also Verse (while not virtous is portrated as an extremely competen warrior (with specific mention to how that is true compared to men) and Sirin is the so Powerful her power has to be suppressed, she was also sold by her father into slavery a Man that killed her Mother and planned to kill her, her mother was naturally the only one let me quote here "not using her as an instrument". She is also forced into slavery to work for the Voices of Nerat. To make a long story short, If the society and her Father hadn't been so awful she would not be like she is, she is basically the traumatised Victim turned evil.
Most of Tyrannies good factions are lead by Women:
Tarkis Arri is the leader of the vendiren Guard
Lohara the master of the "forge-bound"
Renata the leader of the Sages Guild
Mattias the leader of the Unbroken
The bad by men:
Bronze Brotherhood: Raetommon
Fatebinders. Tunon
Scarlet Chorus: The voices of Nerat (you can however ignore that one for now... its a special case)
Disfavored: graven Ashe
I still can't understand why you see evil men as "men who lead" and evil woman as "woman who serve only through circumstance".
I do not see it that way, feminist theory (which tyranny is based on, or at least massively influenced by) says that the World is lead by a patriarchy and Women that support this Patriarchy have internalised the Misogyny. I harshly object to your claim that "I" see it like that.
Even if you don't think Kyros is a woman, you have to agree at least to the fact that his/her gender is a complete mistery. And, again, he/she is the only truly "evil" character in this game (maybe accompanied by the Voices).
Both Kyros and the Voices of Nerat are Genderless, correct. That is what i claimed before as well so I do understand why you mention that here. The real question is why they are. The Voices of Nerat are an Amalgamation of thousands of People, it is therefore genderless.
EDIT: Just to make one thing clear now. I was not planning on starting this debate here, even though I am unable to be silent in the face of Ignorance. I haven't played Tyranny in a while and don't plan to do it anytime soon. So I am going to end it here, this is not the topic of the thread.