And maybe you're not getting what I mean by best friend, but I've seen plenty of guys act as though it would be the worst thing in the world if their girlfriend/wife shared their hobbies. I don't pretend to understand it beyond an odd territorialism, and that same notion that they secretly hate their partner and don't want to spend "hobby time" with them.
Either way, if you're going to be stuck in the prepper shelter together, you better learn to talk to your woman about RPGs lmao.
I think it's more just wanting some "me time" to do their own thing away from their spouse. A bit of breathing space. Just because you want time away from her doesn't mean you secretly hate her. Lots of couples have lots of fun together. It's also worth taking what men say about their GFs with a grain of salt. The one's who talk like they wear the pants, or are the crudest about women are usually totally different when their GF is around. All lovey dovey and "yes dear."
What I find weird is the level of disdain shown by many here for the hobby of playing RPGs. I've seen comments about how people wouldn't date a girl who plays RPGs (in another thread I made) or how they wouldn't want their kid to play RPGs. Now in this thread it's "if" they are going to die they don't want to play RPGs but instead go out and abuse drugs and have sex with hookers (I've done both and neither is as fun as you may think). I would have thought that in this of all places I wouldn't have to defend the validity cRPGs as a hobby but that isn't the case. RPGs are a great hobby to have and a fun way to spend your time! Drugs are fun too but come with a lot of baggage that isn't worth it! Hooker sex is not fun, it's lame, can be dangerous and it's a huge waste of money!
Theodora's right about the self-hatred thing... In my day (Xennial), anything geeky was a severe barrier to getting laid (as a dude, as a woman obviously it was a great strategy!). Drugs are risk-taking and therefore masculine. (Almost any other traditionally masculine hobby is better for you, of course.) Paying for sex...well, it's sex. While I support full decriminalization of sex work (I have a hard time with crimes with two willing participants, not to mention the increased risks of violence to both parties with criminalization) it's usually not your best option.
I wouldn't have a problem with a girl/woman who plays RPGs. I've never met one IRL but they do exist obviously--given the gender ratio they tend to get boyfriends fast. (OK, there was one...it's a long story.) Thing with the
kid is, you want your kids to be successful, and they don't conduce to anything useful. Sports and outdoor stuff build muscle and confidence, books help with knowledge and schoolwork, even music and the arts can help with the opposite sex. But they're better than drugs--I never heard of Call of Duty giving anyone liver failure, heart attacks, or heart valve infections. It's like any mildly bad hobby--you might enjoy a beer but you probably wouldn't turn your kids onto that.
I do hear you on the me-time. It really depends on the woman...often if she has a few 'girly' hobbies she'll accept she can't do those with you either and grant you the time for yours. The one thing I would say about 'straight/gay people tropes' is don't believe everything you read in the media. They have a particular audience they're selling to and, often, a particular agenda. With the collapse in ad revenue pretty much the only way they can stay in business is to build subscriptions, and tell their subscribers exactly what they want to hear. The
New York Times is basically calibrated never to offend an upper-middle-class woman who lives on the Upper West Side (and I use this example only because I am an ex-New Yorker and remember the type). Similarly, Fox News tells blue-collar middle-aged and older white guys in the Midwest and South what they want to hear. Read multiple sources, preferably from different sides of the aisle. If nothing else you'll realize how they slant the same events to placate their readership.
To the OP: I'm not alt-right, but you sound really depressed, if you want to complain about the state of society feel free to DM me.
