I am genderfluid.
I present as male most of the time, because that’s what I’m most comfortable being seen as in public, and I have a typically “female” (breasts, naturally occurring estrogen, uterus, etc) body. I’m perfectly comfortable with my body, and I like it, and I experience virtually no dysphoria. I like fucking around with gender, I love putting on a strap on or packer and putting on lacy underwear and a push-up bra. And I’m okay being that way, I’m okay being, well, genderfluid. I like it.
But sometimes I wish I were cis. But not cis male, because I think if I had a typically “male” body, I… wouldn’t be cis male. I’d probably present as female.
I wish I were cis female. But I worry when I think about it, because I’m afraid of being seen as a “faker” or as a “special snowflake” or something like that, or that people will think that I’m “really cis female.” Cause I’m not. I just wish I was sometimes.
It doesn’t help that I’m really active in the feminist community and I wish I could take part in the body-loving part of it without it discrediting me as a trans* individual. If I go shirtless and show my breasts or if I get too involved in the reproductive rights stuff, I blend right in. I get assumed to be a woman. Which makes me uncomfortable in and of itself.
(I guess maybe I just wish gender wasn’t a big deal at all?)