I can tell you're upset about it, yeah.
Everything people reproach to poe or poe2 is present in DAO, sometimes even more so.
MMOish combat, Shallow character development (gotta spend dem points on each level up son ! Don't forget you're a wizard, no need to add agility or whatever rogue stat they have), shallow henchmen (I mean, they're great as you said. Whenever I think of Alistair I dive into a deep retrospective meditative state on the nature of being a funny sidekick), dungeon design, encounter design and what not.
FFS I can tell you really didn't like that sharkboy hitting on you in deadfire since you're clearly not a
and that it's a clear case of "disrespectful henchman" but your most important point is that the arcane warrior is fun.
I mean, yeah, it's been fun ever since d&d3 proposed the kit back then, and it's been fun in the dozens of games that features an equivalent of this cliché. Congratz on DAO for having at least one character spec which doesn't lead the player to put all these retard stat gains on level up in the same two stats without giving a single thought about it.
Now that I think of it, before Diablo III was DAO.
As to the rewarding combat, nothing comes close to the high level content of deadfire in DAO.
Then about the rest :
Exploration is both better and more interesting in deadfire.
Combat is better.
Character customisation is much, much better.
Gameplay is much better.
Game is more modular and allows more options.
You don't have to fight waves of shitmobs in brown corridors for hours.
The bestiary offers more than wolves and orcs.
The game features an actual city.
The world of Dragon Age is even more generic and even more clumsily subversive of its genre tropes. Muh capitalism in dwarf city, muh racism in human cities
(btw, supposedly here the biggest gripe people would have with deadfire)
Please.
As I wrote, we'll have to wait ten more years before people actually talk sense about these games. In such a span of time, surely these retarded sjw/anti-sjw considerations will let place to actual critique and eventually, you'll have come out of the closet by then as well.