This is why i build my own modlists to avoid all trendy garbage zoomer faggots borrow from worst kind of modern slop.
This is typically what I do with the exception of ES games
These mod collections are created over years and potentially include thousands of mods that have tested as much as reasonably possible
And then you can get feedback from people who have used them
It will take you ages if you do this yourself with massive mod collections
But I do agree its better to create your own mod list if you have the time
Why would you need thousands of mods?
The biggest ones i've built were for Morrowind and New Vegas. But they never exceeded 200-300. Both games are relatively easy to mod if you put your mind to it. Construction Set and GECK are simpler to use too.
For Skyrim i keep the list limited to 100 if you don't count textures and meshes, of course some nutjobs have 2000 mod lists.
I play VR Skyrim and it is still new to me. The game version split, different versions of skse plugins, modding in the proper vr functionality, patch hassle, all slows down the process. But it's totally worth it when i slice some nord prostitute's head with 1 swing of my ebony blade. Or throw a Riekling midget off a mountain like piece of trash.