I think it's less feminist agenda, and more just writers being taken with their own creation and wanting to give her a 'hero moment' (at the cost of player agency) so everyone else would see how very cool she was.
Yeah, the more I think about it, they went reaaaally hard into this with the "Illusive Man". He's got total control over you and you're supposed to just like it. Because... he's so cool! We paid money for this famous guy so you're in awe! Martin Sheen is actually in a game, so you have to be drooling in complete reverence!
Aria is that kind of annoying but only about 20% as bad.