Yosharian
Arcane
Ah ED...
It's potentially the best game I won't ever recommend to anyone. I have a personal love and hate relationship with it.
Exactly what you just said. I have about 700 hours logged and near-zero desire to play it again.
I will say that if you do get into the Engineer grind, at least the Engineering system itself gives you a reason to actually obtain materials that exist in the game, mining, surface mining, etc.
But there are so many shitty, un-fun mechanics still in the game that, as you say, I can barely recommend it to anyone.