This scene is directly from a fantasy that Patrick Weekes, who was a major member of the Veilguard team, apparently has often, he is quoted as saying:
"It's not enough to apologise when you misgender someone, no, because that's just something you're saying so you can move on and get it over with. No, I want you to participate in a literal humiliation ritual, because if I could force you to drop and give me twenty like a ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ drill sergeant every time you called me 'he' instead of 'they', I 100% would."
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