There is absolutely no reason for this to happen, at all, if the "women" where just behaving like normal users, created an account and did not make their own sex and sexuality the topic all the time.
I mean, you, or idk. Crispy could be a woman for all I know, how many times are you asked out by the incel and lonely crowd your forum definitely has a part of?
I feel like you think you're being very logical about this, but are missing just how much emotional content / arbitrary bias you're expressing here.
Yes, my name is "Theodora". One of the few things I noticed about this place before signing up was there seemed to be a lot of people interested in history, and Theodora and Justinian are two of my favourite historical figures, and I've rarely met a history nerd that didn't find Eastern Rome fascinating. My name was an offer to talk about that, not my sex. I did not realise that amongst the kind and interesting people on here that there would be quite so many neurotic assholes whose every other thought revolves around an insecurity over women (not to mention an obsessive, love-hate fascination with trannies).
Frankly, I find the expectations you put on men absurdly low. DU in my rare interactions with him doesn't treat me like those men, nor does Infinitron, Crispy, Scruffy, essentially no one on staff, including those who think I am an idiot; a fuckton of other men on the forum fail to act so pathetically either, but you act like this pathetic behaviour is just what men do when reminded a) women exist b) that they have a sexuality.
It never occurred to me to obfuscate my gender on here because when I have remained anonymous elsewhere, those with a shred of empathy or awareness soon picked up that I wasn't a dude, either from how I type, or -- outright -- hearing me on voip. Not sure why I should've approached this place differently, given again: I had no notion there were this many misogynists.
Generally, as with Mebrilia, others bring up my sexuality and I correct them. If that's bait to you, you're living in a very strange bubble indeed. Once again though, this is all your conjecture; and I'm hardly on any plane of comparison with the guys posting smut for each other, or referencing to their own sexual behaviours. I don't care what they're up to, but I don't see how you establish it's my responsibility to cater to the particular group of hopeful, horny morons that think they're going to getting a gf by harassing some stranger on a different continent.
People have responsibility for their own self-mastery, and your whole fixation -- literally and metaphorically -- that 'short skirt = responsibility for others' violence' is a total cop-out, and at best a cope for your own uncomfortable thoughts. The fact you can't identity that all this is totally asocial behaviour leaves me at a loss for words. Go on a pilgrimage or something, find your humanity.