JarlFrank
I like Thief THIS much
This is a problem of RPG systems not being complex and simulationist enough.I think that's the rationale behind the specialization in DEX for female fighters, and it does make some sense, but the trouble is that DEX is usually carried over to things like speed and reaction speed, where it's not necessarily so appropriate. Bracketing speed of neural reflexes (which as the above re. music) is probably more equal, in terms of shifting mass quickly (arm, body, etc.), you get greater speed the more muscle mass you have, so speed and strength are really closely tied together.
A good system will have DEX and AGI as two separate stats, one determining your manual dexterity, the other your speed and overall physical agility.