I like tactics games, but I'm not much for taxonomy, so I usually stay out of these threads, but it really seems like your list is going in a bunch of different directions.
On the one hand, you have games that depend on positioning units in the face of the enemy (a common definition of tactics), like the ToEE, the gold box games, Silent Storm, etc.
But then you have games like Commandos or it's clones (Robin Hood) where all you can really do is move one unit around while the others stand guard (basically there's no giving orders while paused, so you can move two units simultaneously).
And to round it out, you've got Dark Omen on there, which is a tactics game, but the level of command is units of men, not men, so it's not a "squad tactics" game by any stretch of the imagination.
You also include Darklands, but you don't include the vast horde of RTwP fantasy squad tactics games out there (IE games, Drakensang, Dragon Age, etc); which is a particularly curious omission since you include things like Strike Squad that have a much more primitive RTwP system.
My Advice:
-Cut the list in half, fantasy "party" games on one side (Darklands, IE games, ToEE, Goldbox games), sci-fi/modern/WWII "squad" games on the other (Silent Storm, X-com, Rebelstar, Space Hulk).
-Limit the list to games that are turn-based or allow giving orders while paused to cut down confusion and specify which is which on the list (so cut out Commandos and Seal Team and don't include things like SWAT4; Mass Effect 1+2 are actually an interesting case here since they do allow you to order movement and actions while paused).
-If you want to include larger scale tactics games like Dark Omen, Total War, Knights of Honor, etc) make a separate list for them.
Miscellanea:
Arcanum has no party control, it's basically a cross between the NWN1 henchmen system and FO2. (still a great game)
Age of Decadence has no party period. (Because VD is a dipshit that doesn't give a damn about gameplay)
If you're including console stuff like D&D: Tactics, you should definitely include Final Fantasy: Tactics, FFT Advance, Tactics Ogre, Tactics Ogre Advance (even though it's crap), Vandal Hearts and a whole host of other games I can't think of off the top of my head. The nippers usually call them "strategy RPGs" because no one knows what tactics and strategy mean anymore.