5:20PM : Both players are relogging in the same exact spot to see if they end up "in the same lobby" (if thats a thing). It looks like at this point one player has revealed he does not have PS plus, (not PSN) however
ign reports neither are required. So that player is signing up
5:28PM : Both players now have PS Plus - and are relogging. It seems that one player now has a bug where its showing him disconnected from online services- so they are trying to fix that
5:35: Online activated on both games - both have relogged, time looks be synced up so they see the same planet/time of day (correction: they just both eventually happened to see night time together due to all the relogging) - still no indication of them seeing each other - or seeing each other's planet destruction. We are back to square one