I know what you mean. It's annoying me aswell. In Demon Souls you visit specific locations, where everyone is hostile to you. A castle, a swamp, a tower, a shrine and some mines. In Dark Souls you travel to Lordran. Lordran is completely fucked up and it was not a land where humans lived. But gods. The only humans are other undead. All the kingdoms that are named in item descriptions exist outside of Lordran. And their knights traveled to Lordran.
In Elden Ring you have this land that is just comprised of wildlife and ruins. Is there a story reason for this? Maybe, I don't know. But then you have locations like castle Morne, where the castle is under siege by monsters. And except for the NPC commander the defending soldiers attack you on sight, even if you just kill the monsters. You are clearly on good terms with the commander and the soldiers will keep attacking you. Does everyone just hate Tarnished so much? The guy in charge of castle Haight (?) talks like he is the rightful ruler of Limgrave. You kill the invaders in his castle and afterwards there is nobody at the castle but Haight himself. No servants or anything. Why would this even be important for him? Looking at the land there are no cities, no people but Godrick soldiers on the road etc. No signs of a functional society, even if characters behave like it. Redmane castle is supposed to host some kind of an event but there is no effort put into making it look like it. The castle is just empty, populated with soldiers. All you get are a few NPCs.
It just feels weird to me. They made it open world, but it doesn't feel like a real world at all. Maybe it's story related idk.