I'm 45 hours into the game, still Act 1, and so far the only "woke" instances have been the character creation and the companions, which have really sparce interactions compared to the length and scope of the game. Aside from their playersexualism, which is arguably bad, my main qualm with them is that they are simply badly written, for the most part. My favorite one so far is fucking Lae'zel, who I left in the cage at the start and only recruited 30 hours later.
Unless horniness skyrockets later on, I really don't understand where all this talk comes from aside from the retarded need to engage in culture wars. The fact the companions are trash is obviously a disgrace and rightfully hampers the enjoyment of the game, but the whole writing in this game seems subpar so far, unfortunately. I hope it gets better later on.
Where all the talk comes from. Oh, that's a painful question to tradlarpers.
Hypothesis 1 - It's because they rest spam, because they are shit players, and they advance romances too quickly in realtime. Some of them likely don't know there are short rests as well as long rests.
Hypothesis 2 - Thinking as they do that they know everything about RPGs, they feel obliged to click through every dialogue in camp, and they open up romance dialogue branches without looking.
What's Larian's fault imo is that Larian practically didn't include anything but romance-related dialogues for companions past the character-specific comment on the latest quest you are on. It's as if their philosophy is that if you are talking to one of your companion NPCs, it's because you want to bang him/her/it.