Jasede said:
Why is it wrong/immoral? Well, it's apparent: in my perception of the world, sheltered and naive as it be, there's such a thing as love, and you cheapen it, as well as one of its most intimate expressions, sexuality, by making the latter a common, dirty and meaninfless thing, you ultimately cheapen yourself. I miss the days when coyness and chastity were virtues, and were loved ones would preserve themselves for each other, instead of corrupting themselves with the sin.
1. Sexuality may be the "most intimate expression of love" (I'll go into that in my second point), but certainly not the most crucial. Love can very well exist without sexual desires for the person you love. You know, I love my mother and I certainly don't want to fuck her. Old couples love each other without the need for sex. In a sense I also love my best friend, I could imagine living with him in the same place for years, sharing money and experience, joy and sorrow... depend on him. And I am not homosexual.
In fact your statement implies that you overestimate the impact of sex, maybe because your lack thereof. It would indeed be terrible if a powerful emotion and prescious state of mind like love could be destroyed by something as trivial as sex.
To say that by having sex independently from love you become immoral and it somehow somehow diminishes the value of love, is maybe the most uninformed and blatently stupid statement I've ever heard.
2."most intimate expression of love" describes only one sort of sex, in fact and I believe that sex can manifest itself in two forms (or fulfill two purposes): One, fucking: a physically pleasing act. It feels good, that's why you like to do it. Like eating when you are hungry or taking a piss if you feel the need. Hell even winning a fucking football match or whatever your hobbies are. You get a certain satisfaction out of it, that's why you do it. This act can exist entirely outside of a love relationship (at least for men). Ha, or do you jerk off to furry porn every day because you love... yourself?
Then there is this sort of sex where you show affection and love for your partner, when you want to feel her near you and be secure, where somehow through sex you can express and share these feelings. But this isn't the only or most important means to show that.
[LyricSuite]By the way you seem to understand sex in a very feminine way [/LyricSuite] Not that this is inherently bad, but alas, it is interesting.
3."corrupting yourself with the sin" .. that borders on religious mania. Sexual intercourse is no sin, and what is a sin anyway, except what some fuck declared thousands of years ago. Why do you think it somehow corrupts you? Would it not be much worse if you betrayed your shared friendship in leaving that person for example? I don't know about you, but if my partner, whom I have respected and cherrished for 20 years (that's admittedly hypothetical, because it would mean that I've had a partner since the age of 3), sleeps with some other guy but wants to spend the rest of her life with me, I could fogive that. It might make me pissed off and feel a bit betrayed, but in the long run, it wouldn't matter.
One could argue about the value of partnership for life where procreation is the chief purpose in our modern society, but I don't want to get into that right now.
Jasede said:
Just "having fun" invariably leads to people becoming people I don't like, I have seen it often. They start viewing people no longer as persons, but merely as sexual objects and have no sense of responsibility or attachment left.
I really don't see any causality here. Why would I "see someone as an object" simply because I am sexually attracted to that person. Only because you are intellectually attracted to the codex doesn't somehow make you degrading it members to objects, right?
Another thought: even if It did, would it be so wrong, if said other person enjoyed the one-night-stand too? I don't automatically become less moral if I seek satisfaction (if I don't harm anyone in doing so), on the contrary, maybe I helped to brighten up some girl's lousy day (or to enlighten some RPG noobs on the Codex). And I certainly won't lose any responsibility.
Wow, this has grown a bit too long and tangential then I had intended. If you want me to elaborate, maybe we should shift that discussion to PMs.
..I am not a profeshunal! philosopher and English isn't my first language, so please forgive any factual mistakes in my quick comments here.