Lot of people try to get in the industry through friends or family, or get help for their children through friends and family. A woman Cain went to high school 30 years ago tried to get him to help. At the end of it all, it's not personal, it's just business.
Worked somewhere that really needed a type of specialist, had a friend who was that specialist, recommended him, it did not work out for either side, Cain's friend did not handle the situation well, the company did not handle him well, he quit, and Cain's boss there told him it would be a while before he ever trusted another recommendation from him.
The second story is someone he worked with at another company as a programmer had some arrangement with the company that no one could look at his code. Code would arrive to Cain's team pre compiled. Ten years later, Cain is at another company and the person asks him to have lunch; He's applying for a job at that company and is hoping Cain could put in a good word. They wanted him to take a programmer test, he wanted to skip that by having Cain vouch for him. Cain recalled two instances at the previous company where he had issues with his code and told him he would have to take the test. The other guy insisted on Cain vouching for him and got mad and left when he won't.
Third story, someone wanted to join a team he was on as a designer. Cain had worked with him before very distantly. Cain said tentatively yes, but there is a design test and you have to get the lead designer's approval. He took the test, the lead knew he and Cain were friends. The Lead looked at it, went to Cain and told him it was not very good, Cain looked at it and agreed it was not very good. Unfinished answers, rambling answers, some design answers showed instant flaws. Lead Designer was glad Cain agreed because he was not going to extend an offer. Sometime later the guy called Cain asking why he wasn't getting an offer, and when told the lead designer wouldn't go for it, asked Cain if he could override him. He left angry when Cain told him how bad that would look.
If you have a game development job, people will ask you to help them get a job, and they will not be willing to put any effort into it, no classes, no demos.
'It's not personal, it's business' is a common phrase people associate with a business about to do something very shady, but Cain understands separating the two. There are friends in the industry he would not want to work with because of their different philosophies.
Some people will take it personal when you tell them it just doesn't make sense for you to work for them, your skillset or your work practices aren't a match, they will say you should find an accommodation for them, and Cain can accept that but only to a point. If you go to a RPG studio, all of your resume is action games, and you response to their design test is what you would see in action games, you probably aren't a fit.
Businesses do nasty things, but some decisions are just practical, and if you bring friendship into it, you're going to cause problems.
Cain had very highly placed friends at a company he flubbed the test for, but he moved on instead of trying to get them to pull strings.
Sometimes Cain regrets failing interviews, but other times something bad happens at a company he didn't join later on and he wonders if he dodged a bullet.
Interview questions can work both ways and give you an indication if the company is not a good fit for you.